Women and dating on the internet
As a man who is an excellent communicator and emotionally connected, I was one of the most dangerous of daters.Because some women felt an instant chemistry and even a spiritual connection with me, as if they had known me all their life…“he’s different so he must be safe.” Well the good news is that I was and am safe and so are most guys.It was kinda easy to WOO and WOW women on the phone and they not only thought me safe, they felt an almost unique connection with me.Now I mostly would talk to moms, because as a dad, I thought them safe. Just because they read a profile and a few correspondences or shared one cocktail at a bar, they felt they knew me and felt comfortable.There was nothing romantic or spontaneous about it, and it required a lot more time and energy than I expected.I recommend online dating for practice if you haven't dated in a while, but ultimately, I think the chances of meeting someone great are small and require a whole lot of effort.""I'm a Baby Boomer who never thought she’d be single at 60. I met one guy from California that I flew out to spend time with only to learn he was looking for a woman to support his lazy behind. Or they are sick and want a woman to be their nurse.I would like someone who is easy to talk to, comfortable in their own skin, and is willing to enjoy whatever life has to offer.
Plenty of women are opting out of the "efficiency" of the swipping world, instead choosing to find a date the old-fashioned way. I would type, delete, type again, delete, etc., like I didn't know who I was in real life. You're just asking these basic questions wondering when it's cool to really be yourself."I was constantly overthinking what I had typed in my profile or what I was sending in a message to a guy. Over time, I began to feel like I was losing my true self in the quest to be the girl with the perfect profile, and I decided it wasn't worth the stress and sacrifice of losing and/or hiding who I am.""I was sick of constant disappointment or men that wanted to text forever. But that's the thing -- you can't really be yourself online." "Online dating gave me exactly what I wanted: practice going on dates with strangers and trusting my instincts about the men I met.When I would see something in a guy's profile that he liked in a woman, I would think ‘Hey! What I did not like was that it felt extremely contrived, as if I was online shopping.When online dating works, it can be a great way to connect with lots of people you wouldn't have otherwise met.But when it doesn't, the experience can send you down the everyone-is-awful-so-I'm-probably-dying-alone spiral. I'd rather meet a great guy randomly and organically than deal with the constant rejection and exhaustion.""You just don't get that spark that you do when you know you like someone and it's instant and wonderful. It's like you try to put a face to the person you're talking to, but it just feels like this contrived entity.
She has lived and worked in North America, Europe, and Africa, and takes additional international trips to Asia and South America every year.