Why i gave up dating
Many millennials turn to dating apps for “situation-ships” but since the Plenty of Fish (POF) app was advertised to be for more than a hook-up, I looked forward to what was coming my way.
But after three go-rounds on POF and a stint or two on Tinder and Soul Swipe, I’m back at square one.
I want to get back to my happy, focused, content life.
I haven’t figured out how to date and still maintain that drive and ambition. I always say that when I’m single I never fight with anyone and I never cry. I’m a romantic deep down, and I do still harbor some dumb enduring hope that the right man will come along and love me the way I deserve. I want to live my life as happily as I can, and for me, that means no dating allowed.
After I finished my academic career I was on the pursuit for passion and partnership.
So I decided to let a dating app be my personal matchmaker.
It's actually ended up lasting a year because after seven months, I met someone—and it was IRL.
The biggest reason I had for deleting my dating apps was just an insufficient return on investment.
"Our drive for union is part of our species, as it is for almost all mammals."I will never find someone else," she remembers sobbing."I will be alone the rest of my life." But she found the courage to get up, change her life, and do things that gave her confidence and joy.Not just in dance class, but where are all the men from all the various social activities? The reason is the expected rate of return of your precious, finite, and perpetually dwindling time.They make up half the population, but I can't find any single guys to date. If you go out, hot as you may be when you're 18, you have little to no control over succeeding in getting a girl's number or a date.
Even if your life experiences have made you lose hope, and finding love again does not seem like it will ever be a real possibility, many experts and women who found true love later in life say there are plenty of reasons to hang in there: Although you may feel skittish about romance after disappointments, it is human nature to seek companionship and comfort in the arms of another.