Ambivalent man dating
It was at first a very passionate affair, but as soon as we moved in together and got engaged I had what everyone assumed was a typical case of “cold feet.” Trouble is, it didn’t go away, it nagged at me and it got stronger to the point where I felt I couldn’t ignore it anymore.
To me, this illustrates the tremendous power of wishful thinking.As we become closer to our beloved and feel connected to them, our experience is defined by the possibility of separation.Every time we say “yes” there is a “no” in the background informing our choice.The idea that a man who is emotionally unavailable after three months will suddenly become emotionally available after six. I think I’m falling in love with you.” The men who left you walking on eggshells did the complete opposite.Or that the man who never talks about a future with you will suddenly see the light. A great night of passion is invariably followed by five days of silence. ” Is it not clear which men have long-term potential?
I learned to accept this behavior as part of my “fear of intimacy.” The pushing away then pulling closer behavior was a sure sign that I was simply scared of commitment and closeness with another human being.